To become whole we must look into the mental blocks safely tucked behind the veneer of bourgeois respectability, blocks the system encourages because that system would collapse wholesale if perfect spirits awoke within it. These blocks are the products of trauma – things we couldn't process at the time – and the truth of trauma is that pain is unavoidable, not just the pain of reliving the trauma but the pain of leaving behind the self defined by that trauma, and the pain of finding a new life, a new identity. In the end though it will all be deemed worthwhile, assuming you live long enough.