Happiness has little to do with feeling good or getting my own way. If it were then I'd always be at the mercy of my moods and my manipulative abilities. Happiness is rather the outcome of having travelled deep enough inside to know that life is unfolding exactly as it should, or, as Christians would put it: of knowing that God loves me, or, as we say in taiji: deep happiness is a destiny being lived, because destiny is, ultimately, the only thing strong enough to offer absolute support.