Yielding

John often talks of connecting to another by laying yourself alongside them, and today whilst working with him I suddenly realised that this is exactly how it is. I had a very simple choice: whether to remain being me or to relax my boundaries and allow myself to absorb him sufficiently to hear and feel and eventually become what he is. And we were aslant, slightly, to each other, and even when we are head on we have both done enough entering and yielding by now to insinuate and nestle accommodatingly rather than clash and press our differences. Listening was a matter of losing my bearings and allowing the other to become my point of reference. The more I was able to do this the more I became aware of the subtle beauties and intricacies of his energy, but also, surprisingly, the more I became aware of my own energy and how it was changing and waking to the implications of the process of this listening which was in fact a joining. Entering one has a choice whether to frantically search for familiar landmarks against which to judge the unknown (the most familiar being self), or to enter upon entering a realm within one’s own energetic reality which no longer needs landmarks because nothing is known or unknown - there is enough seepage through the living surfaces for the web of connectedness to feed and inform all within it. Persistent entering of this nature wears away the skin and leaves it raw and tingling, constantly searching for new (or old) surfaces to lay against. And such surfaces are all around though some are more fulfilling than others, in the sense of taking you breathlessly beyond yourself. When both parties lay alongside each other in this listening and becoming manner then there is the chance for a developing relationship: some magic happens and the resulting sparks coalesce and settle into the energetic space of your togetherness. This can and generally does happen unawares, especially for those not particularly interested in energy. However, for those of us who work with it and within it, laying alongside eventually brings you to the realisation that there is nothing else quite so worthwhile so why bother with anything else. This is the choiceless state of grace and active yielding that we all yearn for on some level. The secret is to get to that level so that you can leave behind all that gets in the way.