Normal behaviour, especially social behaviour, seems to be all about withdrawing the spirit and foregrounding the ego, hence the tiresome clash of opinions that most exchanges seem to boil down to. In Taiji we endeavour to reverse this approach: withdraw the self so that spirit can engage the other. Then each activity, each meeting of the moment, becomes not only energetic and energising, but also instructional and transformative. Ultimately it is the only way to learn, and so to become a better soul.