The temptation, always, is to use force. This should be resisted but rarely is. We all have to learn, the hard way, that force may seem to get the job done and give us what we want, but the results are always flawed and ultimately unusable. Then the long slow task of undoing the damage – unraveling – in order to start again. As my teacher once said to me: Progress is a series of going back to square ones.