We bring up the personal to let it go. The same with family. Everyone has a story – a trauma. The point is whether you're brave enough to let it improve/mature you, or whether you chose to forget and stay the same (get gradually worse). The only way to truly heal is to keep the wound open until its teaching has been totally internalized. Everything has a reason. It is not our place to know or even understand. But it is precisely our place to behave as though there were damn good reason. That is, to believe.